Toxic Monogamy

Today I wanna talk “toxic monogamy” and how I interpret this term.

The picture above is a simple example of this term. It may seem cute and harmless in some ways, but when you unpack it’s just a conditioned belief we have all been taught

Once we are in a committed relationship we tend to think of our partner as “ours” as it’s a possession to have and keep.

We as a human are no one else’s but our selves (if we used that language in a different context we would be appalled)

However when in a typical relationship it seems okay to say “she’s mine” right!? 🤔

We are not meant to be anyone’s, you are here to discover your own true being and what life has to offer you, not to hinder your existences by claiming the title of being “someone’s” and that one persons for life

Many people carry this title like a badge of honor. Believe me I love hearing my partner tell me I’m his or hers when we are in a sensual setting, it’s a turn on then! But claiming me as a object is not!

I so often hear other couples share experiences like this “I caught sussie talking to another guy at the bar last night so I left her there!” That’s what she gets if she thinks that’s ok! 🤯

Or

That same partner sees her talking with someone else, engaged in a conversation and they instantly get jealous and start an argument with her and maybe even this random person. All because their insecurities took over and they couldn’t take their goggles off to see “she is just a human being, having a human experience and that’s it. Why do we have to call it anything when most of the time it’s not!

Allowing your self to have an emotional connection with others is okay! I get emotionally attracted to many people I meet. Even if it’s just for a brief moment, but their energy made me feel a certain way and I liked it!

I allow myself to feel what I feel because it’s healthy to feel

With these connections it doesn't always have to mean seggs either! Just because I have an emotional connection doesn’t mean I wanna fugg everyone I meet!

I might be attracted to your mind and wanna hear you talk all day! But am not Seggually attracted to them. If my partner met somebody else that made them feel a certain way I would be so excited and want to hear all about it because another human has been able to touch their heart and bring more joy to their life. Who am I to take that experience away from them?! why should they be limited to not feeling that type of love from anybody else in the world but me? Where in any book in history has it been said that you were only supposed to love one person and only that ONE person only till death do you part?… ( religion- and why I don’t follow them) 🤔 but even saying that term right there many of us are prompted to use that line when stating wedding vows “till death do us part..” as much as I plan to be with my partner till death does us part doesn’t give them some sort of badge or metal, claiming their prize for the rest of their life.

All that states is that you are committed to loving them till eternity, NOT that they are you’re now possession, and nobody else could ever make an emotional connection with them for the rest of their life because they are yours. 🤦🏻‍♀️ it's not slavery- your not being sold! Your making a commitment of love to them. Very different actually!

I will admit I have a hard time hanging out with friends who act this way..: I don’t do jealousy, in fact it’s one of the biggest turn offs for me. Life is here for us to explore each and every experience that comes our way. It’s how we react to each situation that alters that experience. We are here to love learn and enjoy this lifetime not to take what’s mine and control every and all aspects of this existence.

Many never even knows what’s in front of us because we are to focused on calling it a “thing” that we can’t even stop to just enjoy whatever it is…

I love meeting new people

Like LOVE IT! What I don’t love is as soon as you have a connection that they assume you want in their pants!?.. Where is the genuine connection in this life… why is it always about the physical exchanges. And if you know me, I’m all about that physical connection! I love human touch, in fact it’s one of my love languages. I loved to be touched and shown affection. When it’s appropriate and consensual!

I love even more having emotional support from many, I love having that open connection with friends and maybe at some point with some of them it’s more than that, or it’s not- either way it’s okay!

But why do we have to jump and slap labels on everything and everyone we meet?

Soon as you meet someone the questions start.. “are you single” do you wanna hook up; wanna be my gf/bf, wanna get married etc…. Friends need to know “who is this man/women?)

Outsiders assume “they must be cheating”

Who cares what I'm doing!! It's my life to live last I checked!

Why do we have to call it anything

Can’t we all just be friends and what happens is meant to happen?

I’m all about organic chemistry 🧪

Get to know me, understand who I am and what I love, turn me on with your mind and I promise to do the same back. I’m a open book, I love to connect and learn from each other. I love me a hype team! I love women because we tend to cheer each other on no matter what it is! A good tribe will always have your back, and if they don’t… they are NOT your people!

I  LOVE Deep conversations about life… I wanna see your soul and your shadows along the way.

I challenge you to soften and allow others into your life without the labels… You may be surprised what life has to offer if you live in flow and stop blocking yourself from these experiences. I know it’s easier said than done- but I challenge you to TRY. Try to let go of those old out dated beliefs that if it looks different it must not be okay! Guys it’s 2023 for peeks sake LIVE and be FREE! You deserve it for you 🥰

This world has so much more to offer when we stop living by the books and really start living for your soul purpose.

I promise everything becomes so much more juicy when you soften and let life unfold how it’s supposed to

Not how you think it should look 👀

I wish you all more love joy and happiness in your lives from here on out Go get it ! ❤️‍🔥

Sincerely The QUEENbee

Always and forever your Green Goddess